24 February 2009

I just have this one tiny, tiny thing to say

After I moved out, it eventually came back to me (small towns are a bitch) that Donk-Wad/K.Dot/MyBestFriendAndBiggestFan/FavoriteAnonymousCommentor had been telling a lot of people around Chico that Gabriel was his godson.

I mean.

That's his kid.

And have you SEEN our son? He's the most beautiful, smart, engaging, sweet little boy. Why wouldn't you want to own that? Wouldn't you be shouting it from the rooftops?? I mean, holy shit our kid is AMAZING.

He can tell whatever version of events he wants to tell. I don't really care. I encourage it, even, if bandaging his pride makes him act like a better person.

But.

I never wanted to be anything but a good mother to Gabriel.

I never wanted anyone to think I was anything but his mother.

What if I said he was my godson??

Can you even imagine?

29 comments:

  1. Who in the hell told you that? Everyone and their mother knows Gabe is my son. These are the things I am talking about when I question the nature of your blogs. Grow up...we, Gabe and I, are waiting.

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  2. What, you mean like Grace and Gabe are always waiting for your financial support?
    - Daphne

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  3. There isn't a single person in Chico of friend of mine that doesn't know Gabe is my son and I immedialtely point that out.

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  4. I believe you aren't receiving the entire truth of that situation either however I am not going to point out anymore personal details of either Jenny or myself. I don't care to defend myself to you, I am mostly concerned that my parents read her blog and they need to know the truth. I am challenging Jenny to tell the complete, 100% unbiased truth when blogging about me as she freely does in other situations.
    In all conflicts there are two sides and unfortunately Gabe is in the middle, I have challenged her to tell the complete truth and it hasn't happened and that maybe because she can't come to terms with that in her own head. I did some bad things to her and she has done some to me, end of story move on. We can't go back and change it. She has made committments to me and failed miserably and I have similarly, the point is we can't fail Gabe the way we failed each other.

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  5. Oh he's yours now all right, but back when you were still living with Jenny? You hadn't quite decided to claim him yet. I remember that.

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  6. wow! kinda catty round these parts today!

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  7. Kimate, I hope for both our sakes that Gabriel continues to make us better people, as I believe he already has. I'm not a liar; I never have been. This is my space. You are free to create your own.

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  8. K, people should check out some of the posts in your own blog. Then they can decide whether or not you have any right to talk about "bias in online reporting" or whatever the hell you're talking about. She gets to say whatever she wants. I know her - she'd sing your praises if you just got something right for once.
    - Daphne

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  9. She would not, because she never has and won't ever post what happens in any truthful account because it would paint a different picture of what you think about me and then she would have a hard time seeking approval from her audience when bashing me.
    BTW, whoever is anonymously remembering "Oh he's yours now all right, but back when you were still living with Jenny? You hadn't quite decided to claim him yet. I remember that." Should probably have a name so we can put truth to that as well.

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  10. Daphne, they should check out my posts so they can see the full picture. It is ashame that I don't choose to fully account the details of my life probably because I am too busy enriching my life and others but she won't tell you that...

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  11. I've checked out your posts. Where are the enrichment parts? I'm genuinely curious.
    Daphne

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  12. These last two blogs make me furious. I really try to stay out of this situation but come on...just saying you can keep him for the weekend-he's three and he understands. Make a little effort to see your child Kimate, honestly, he's a pretty great kid be with. That just sucks to do to a child. And this...well I don't even know what to say.
    -Jayme

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  13. Um. Yikes.

    Staying out of this one.

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  14. Um... I'm pretty sure that this is Jenny's blog and she can say whatever the hell she wants to. If you don't like what she says, stop reading HER blog. You commenting and getting defensive does not make you look any better.

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  15. Becs, these are people who claim to know me and Jenny, possibly people that will come into contact with my son as in Daphne's case. I have apologized to her but the "should be neutered" comment from her was unnecesary considering I have met her once and I defended her slighting by Jenny years ago. I understand this is Jenny's blog but she knows my parents read it. I would not and have never exposed her parents to anything I know or feel about her negatively and that compels me to write. I believe that is a justified complaint. I don't really want to waste my time doing this but she has gone too far

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  16. Why do you care if people you know read her blog? If your parents read it and these things are totally untrue they will know that, right? If she is totally making this stuff up then people that know you that also read this blog will already know that. So basically you are only defending yourself to those of us that don't know you which is a waste of time.

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  17. My parents are not near enough to know anything and they don't judge Jenny or myself as ill as they should. Jenny is a good person. I directed my comments at Daphne because she is a person I have met. The other people on this site that I am aware of knowing do not speak like she just did. Are you trying to say that I should not defend myself when someone I have to deal with is speaking ill of me? Jenny hasn't commented that I shouldn't comment back and I have requested that she leave me out of her ramblings which everyone I have come into contact believe might be a bit childish but I am not judging her. I have asked her to stop which is a valid request, she will not. We are parties in disagreement about many things which I believe is a private affair and she does not. No one is right in this matter and I have admitted that where she cannot. My comments were never directed at you or anyone else I don't know. I am happy people take interest in Jenny and enjoy her pictures of our son and such. I only care to read her blogs because she self admittedly will not have a disagreement and conversation to resolve such to me face to face and never has. I get her true feelings from her blog and she has never called to talk about any issues when Gabe is not around. This is her medium of communication, I am trying to communicate on her level anyway I can. Believe me I would not bother if we didn't have a son.

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  18. I'm so confused.

    It's my weekend though, so I can be confused today.

    blessings!

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  19. My nose doesn't belong here. I realize this. I haven't read this blog long enough to know any back story...so take what I'm going to say however you'd like. My intent is completely and honestly good.

    I'm divorced from my children's father. Have been since late 2005. We made a commitment when we first separated to do our best job of being friends for the sake of our children. Not for ourselves. Not because during those times we really even wanted to be in the same general space -- but because our children deserved to have the best we could provide regardless of the divorce.

    I'm not saying that ex's in any case (whether a dating or married relationship) need to be best friends. You don't even have to like each other. But, real, honest communication between each other is the greatest gift you can give to Gabe at this point. You either don't want, aren't willing, or just can't give him mom and dad together -- and that's fine. Happy apart is better than miserable together. But, you can let him see that as adults, you've put those feelings of hurt/distrust/whatever aside for his best interests to be taken care.

    Like I said originally, I don't know your situation. I'm certainly not judging it based on one blog post. But it seems obvious that there are some issues yet which need to be resolved so that the two of you, at least on a very basic level, can be friends with each other for Gabe's sake. And I hope, really really hope, you find that. Because it really does make things so much easier. And children, much much happier.

    My ex-husband and I are now good enough friends that we live together under one roof with our children. This way they get the benefit of mom and dad. (And no, I don't suggest everyone with children move in with their ex -- that's just what happened in our circumstance.)

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  20. Oh kimate. I know that I am completely biased as Jenny is a good, long-time friend of mine. And I don't feel some inherent need to ever be friends with you. But I HAVE told Jenny that her rants about you ultimately call into question her judgement- but then she will go on and on about what a loving father you are and how she would never take that away from Gabriel. I think you should know that there is some truth in the fact that if you just make things slightly better, she really would have nice things to say about you.
    But in the meantime- this is her way of venting and getting the bad feelings out, and she must be doing something right- since you guys do have an incredible child.

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  21. Hey Molly, I don't need praise for doing my job, similarly I don't want to be bashed without the ENTIRE truth being pointed out. I also believe Gabe being awesome is not entirely Jenny's doing and Gabe won't continue to be awesome if he realizes the failure of our communicative ability because she relates feelings toward me via blog. Why not speak to me about these things and listen to me regarding the same things on her part. I have no problem telling someone there is an issue and I am by no means perfect but communicating with her via blog or through 3rd person is cumbersome and at this point annoying...

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  22. No one's perfect. And I can imagine it being hard to have to confront every mistake you make in a public forum. But you guys will figure out a way to get along... this is just growing pains. Most people get to walk away from a bad relationship eventually and never deal with the other person again if they don't want to... but that's not really an option here. And if Jenny needs to process all of her bad feelings here, rather than say things to you or do things that would ruin your relationship with Gabe- then this just needs to be her space for now. I'm honestly encouraged though that you've brought the conversation back to Gabe, rather than just the defensive finger pointing I've seen in the past (or even in earlier comments today.) It's nice to know that there is some truth in what Jenny says about your dedication to being a good father to Gabe.

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  24. Don't really know what to say about that!

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  25. Wow, okay lots going on here today. Gabe is a great kid and you're a great mom. That won't ever change.

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  26. I think saying he was his godson is EXTRA insulting seeing as you're an atheist.

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  27. I couldn't imagine saying Rocket wasn't my own. I will claim him as mine, as if my life depended on it, until the day I die.

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