25 August 2010

Don't Be An Asshole

*People qualified to give me medical advice:  Medical professionals, provided that I'm currently under their care.
*People not qualified to give me medical advice:  Everyone else.
*Don't tell women that you barely know that they have a 'considerable amount' of weight to lose, especially via twitter.
*Especially not on the heels of one particular woman's discussion of eating disorders.
*You should probably make sure you're caught up on the conversation at hand before you decide to throw your 94 cents into the mix.
*No one asked you.
*Hey! I'm not obese!
*No one asked you.
*Predicting my death from diabetes (and how that death will orphan my son) is ALWAYS uncalled for.
*I worked really fucking hard to have any sort of positive body image at all, and I don't appreciate having that hard-earned sense of physical self worth attacked. Especially by a woman who claims to 'know me.'
Red Dress by Free People

82 comments:

  1. Wait I thought you loved her? Right? Hugs? Love? Sparkles? LOVE?

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  2. They can NOT be serious, Grace.

    You look pretty damn healthy to me.

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  3. Words can't describe my girl crush on you.

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  4. Yeah I missed that memo, apparently.

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  5. what a fuckhead.

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  6. Funny, because my DOCTOR also thinks I'm healthy.
    I could stand to lose (in my doctor's eye) 10-15lbs, but I am (according to my doctor, a paid medical professional) really very healthy.

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  7. Awesome.

    Love your dress.

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  8. I'm still pissed on your behalf over this. SO uncalled for, so irresponsible, so exemplary of the very worst in human behavior. Gah. You tell 'er!

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  9. Afuckingmen. Haters gonna hate, love. ;)

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  10. Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition.

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  11. I understand that when you have a public life online that you'll get people who follow you just to trash you. But what sort of lowlife will be so rude when they know you in person?!? She might feel empowered because she loves her body but hey: this just in: She has a terrible personality. And you can lose weight- what can she do?

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  12. You are beautiful. You have a smokin' bod. And I love you.

    And that other person is a HUGE asshole.

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  13. YOU? You have a considerable amount of wait to lose? Whoever it was has fucking issues, beyond the fact that their an asshole supreme. You're gorgeous...

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  14. "considerable amount" of weight to lose?!?!?! People are unbelievable (especially when they are safely behind their keyboard).
    I would LOVE to have some of your curves....especially the BEWBS.

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  15. Sing it sister!!! You. Are. Gorgeous!!

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  16. I don't think "considerable" means what that bitch thought it meant.

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  17. So I only just met you but can still say with much officialness that you are lovely and beautiful and need not a thing changed and can sing your ass off. (And am utterly and totally mind blown about this whole deal in the first place.)

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  18. Julie (queenofpink)August 25, 2010 at 9:04 AM

    I'm new. And I already heart you. You are beautiful and wonderful. Haters suck and blow. :)

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  19. As someone who spent time with you (and hugged you), I can testify that you look AMAZING. The haters can suck it.

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  20. People can be so fucking stupid. Look at you, your fucking hot! It sounds like something my mother in law would say, LOL. You Rock!

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  21. You know how I feel about all this from twitter last night. But yeah you are prettier than her. I was amazed that she posted on twitter that you still loved her. um ok.

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  22. my jaw hit the keys when i saw it on twitter yesterday- what a stupid bitch!

    'hey youre gonna die and orphan your kid but i love you and enjoy lunch! " WTF!?

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  23. Obesity is an issue. It's unhealthy and it's dangerous. If someone has something to say about obesity, they should tell their own story and educate through example. They shouldn't decide to provide someone who's essentially a stranger with their half-baked, uninformed opinions, especially when they're wrong.

    And in the end, one of you I'd totally hump and the other I'd chew my arm off so I could escape before the bag came off of her head.

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  24. I got you a present: http://media.photobucket.com/image/haters%20gonna%20hate/Sinsei55/HatersGonnaHatePanda.jpg

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  25. What kind of ammo you need?

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  26. You can't go on a personality diet, unfortunately.

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  27. I love you too sugarface.

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  28. http://media.photobucket.com/image/%252522hell%20yeah%252522/dsumm438/Western/CowboyUpHellYeah.png

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  29. Thank you sugarlove.

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  30. The bewbs are 40% good bras, but thank you my dear.

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  31. I do not think that means what you think it means.

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  32. Aw, I can't sing attall, I'm just lacking in the ability to be embarrassed when drinking.
    You're quite lovely yourself.

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  33. Oh my goodness thank you!

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  34. You look pretty amazing yourself.

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  35. Your mother-in-law is misinformed. And probably not your doctor.

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  36. Hugs to you sweetheart.

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  37. Good rule of thumb: Predicting someone's impending death is not a good way to make friends. Especially if you couch in terms of child abandonment.

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  38. That's because one of us enjoys sex, and the other enjoys scrapbooking.

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  39. WTF. You let them have it. Are you really serious? I would hope you would have made this post up to be entertaining but you are more of a real person. You have me a little pissy right now.

    Raise your sword - you are one bad ass bitch!

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  40. I lack the creativity that would be required to make up something like this.

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  41. I think people concentrate so much on their bodies they forget to exercise their BRAINS and their HEARTS.

    And also, some people have anorexia eyes and see fatness unless they see skeletons.

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  42. People get way too hung up an a number, and fail to realize that said number needs to be considered ALONG WITH height, body fat %, blahblahblah. A squishy number on a tall person is less healthy than a muscle-y number on a short person (says the squishy tall girl), even if that number is the same.

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  43. ANOREXIA EYES. I love that.

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  44. Fuck that shit. Honey you look great, don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise. And don't let this idiot trip you up.

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  45. You are absolutely gorgeous and perfectly healthy and that woman is an ass.

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  46. way to go girlie! I have a personal grudge against people who confuse "being helpful" with "being an asshole"

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  47. What kind of fucking noob would dare say your over weight? Seriously....if you can see your feet your good in my book.

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  48. Love you, long time...just the way you are.

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  49. I love you. Truly, madly, deeply. You and your awesome lovely lady curves.

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  50. I love you and you are gorgeous inside and out.

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  51. How rude and ridiculous. You're gorgeous.

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  52. I also want a picture of you with that big, huge, open mouth grin/laugh. It is awesome.

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  53. You're hot. I'd hit that. Fuck the haters. I love you woman.

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  54. You are beautiful. That is all.

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  55. if this is you in the photo you are lovely!!

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  56. I feel like I should apologize for the poor excuse for a human being who had the nerve to treat you that way. They give assholes a bad name! :0 You are cute as a button! All I can think of is this person was trying to get a rise out of you. Her claim has no validity and she's now antagonized the entire internet community on your behalf! :) You put her in her place-- now go give Gabe a big squishy hug from me! :-)

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  57. see, i go to bed early and i miss the drama on twitter.. seriously? you are beautiful..

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  58. patty @ the wingdangdooAugust 25, 2010 at 3:44 PM

    You're lovely. Be happy in your own beautiful skin. No one else can give that to you... and certainly, no one can take it away.

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  59. I commented on twitter already. But. Dude. So much love for you. And your gorgeous curves. xoxo

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  60. AsouthernfairytaleAugust 25, 2010 at 6:15 PM

    If someone called you obese or told you that you had weight to lose. I need to hurt them for you.
    because for real.
    You're the epitome of sexy, beautiful woman.
    People get quite bold behind their screens. You are gorgeous and sexy and luscious, in all the right ways.
    Own it.
    Diabetes? yikes. sorry, love. But, it's not a damn death sentence people... ugh.

    Love you.

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  61. This? is why you are amazing, Adam Avitable. Xoxo

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  62. um what the flaming fuck?

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  63. Healthy and HOT. Nice picture. Seriously F the haters. My wife has some meat on her bones and I love it! She is at a very healthy weight too... people have no idea what the hell they are talking about.

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  64. Who is this douchecanoe? You look hellagood all over, gf.

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  65. If she ever meets me, she's probably going to sit me down and write out a diet/exercise plan on the spot. MUST STAY AWAY.

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  66. Okay, now I feel bad cuz I jumped right on in to the discussion and probably shouldn't have. I hope you know I was trying to be supportive and was agreeing with you that 1100 calories a day is completely unrealistic for anyone. You have a beautiful figure and if it were mine, I wouldn't change a thing!

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  67. Please don't think you were a source of my ire. You were not.

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  68. I still get so MAD when I think about that mean woman and her uneducated comments via Twitter. You are beautiful and OMG so HAWT in that red dress!!! Love you, love this post (sad you had to write it!). Keep rockin' that hawt bod!! XOXO

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  69. What????I've been on vacation and missed something but seriously. NOOOOO. Just NOOOOO.

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  70. I wish I knew who and what is being referenced here.
    And by the way, if you were ugly, I wouldn't have hung out with you as much as I did in NY. Because I'm a dick like that.

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  71. You are lovely. End of story.

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  72. I seriously can't get over how rude that was.

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