22 May 2009

Concession

When K and I went to court for the second time, we agreed on preliminary custody & child support until we go to mediation in June (and court again in July). I didn't even consider the fact that K might actually pay me the ordered support; he's not typically good with that sort of thing.

We were discussing some weekend switch around stuff (via email) and I asked if he was going to pay support, and he said he'd already put it in the mail. Yesterday, which was probably a week after that discussion, he asked me hadn't I ever received that check?
No.
Okay I'll cancel that one and send you another one. I must've forgotten to put your unit number on the envelope.

I never even considered that this could be the truth. I've heard the I sent you money just kidding! thing too many times to even give it pause. We're talking about the guy who right in front of me withdrew $340 and then handed me $300 because "this is my daily withdrawal max so I can't give you any more."

And then I got home, and I had a much abused and fondled envelope from K, with no apartment number on the address, which likely delayed its arrival. It had my check, for the proper amount.
I called him to let him know, but he had already canceled the check, and I have to wait for him to send another one.

But.

He was telling the truth, and not acting like a douche nozzle. I just thought I would let you know.

15 comments:

  1. Its a step in the right direction. Good for him.

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  2. Woah. Most awesomeness today. I sincerely hope he keeps it up.

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  3. shows he is growing up a little. maybe he feels bad about not showing up at the thingy before?

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  4. oh happy day. That is fantastic.

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  5. Gobsmackingly good!

    Course it means I have to stop calling him 'Satan's sweaty ball sack' in my mind whenever I see his initial. Darn. That was kind of fun.

    Oh well.

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  6. People can always surprise you! And people CAN change to a degree. Perhaps, just perhaps he's looked into his son's eyes and realized this is for HIM....

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  7. Always shocks me when they're human.

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  8. Good for him. If my ex paid me what he owes in back child support I'd be able to pay off my mortgage. No joke.

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  9. I know that this is good and everything but to me it looks HIGHLY SUSPICIOUS. Flaking out and letting you down was the one thing he did consistently. Now WHAT'S GOING ON?

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  10. That was very fatherly of him. Let's hope he keeps it up!

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  11. Hey, that's progress. Maybe it's a sign that things will be better, and good for you for acknowledging it here.

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  12. so then is he actually getting his shit together and stepping up? OR is he cleverly planting the seed of possibility that he genuinely sends cheques and doesnt properly address them so that next time he doesnt feel like paying up he can "send you a cheque" and you are a bitch if you complain when it doesnt arrive?!? is he clever enough to even think of this let alone follow through? or am i highly paranoid?

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  13. WOW. I am impressed, and hope to goodness that he continues this.
    Douche nozzle? I was thinking more along the lines of anal cleanser. LOL

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  14. Jeez, I'd do a freakin' happy dance. That would be like Christmas!

    Glad that, for once, it's not a complete stress-parade dealing with that.

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