31 December 2008

Resolved: 2009

*Make a THIS TIME IT'S FOR REAL bid to lose that last 10lbs that'll bring me back to pre-prego weight. Specifically, I must give up late night snacking, reinstitute my lunch time walking, and get back on the exercise train.

*Stop expecting Gabriel's father to change/be reliable/be there when I need him/not torture me. I need to let go of all of my expectations, and I think I'll be a lot happier and more peaceful.

*Actually use my reuseable shopping bags.

*Develop Disgraced Shopping. I need to put more energy in there, it's as simple as that.

*Break this damned celibacy thing I have going on. I mean, fuck...literally.

*Do more fun things on the weekends. I mean more as in quantity of things, not quality of fun.

*Pay down debt.

15 comments:

  1. These are all great things- but I think you should try to tick off five of your life list things too. Maybe make a new year's pie to get it started off?

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  2. These are all great things- but I think you should try to tick off five of your life list things too. Maybe make a new year's pie to get it started off?

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  3. can you delete one of those? not sure how it posted twice...

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  4. Your second point is the one you need to accept for certain. I've run into the two loves of my life this year....Neither have I seen in 15-20 years. Neither have changed. As a matter of fact, both are actually WORSE. Same traits...just WORSE. Horrible! So yes. Accept he is the way he is, be glad you aren't married to him and expect him to get worse with age.

    Sorry....

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  5. I really need to add the shopping bag one to mine too

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  6. "Stop expecting Gabriel's father to change/be reliable/be there when I need him/not torture me"

    About 2 years ago I did the same thing with Ben's dad. Gave up completely on the idea of him being anything other than a complete ass. And you know what? It helps to have NO expectations whatsoever.

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  7. yo for real. ten pounds here too.
    flab be gone.

    and yes for the stop expecting a man to change. i have been there done that and can totally relate. once you manage it it's a release of psychic weight you won't believe

    happy new YEAR!!!!!

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  8. Those all seem relatively attainable. And I am in agreement with #2 being most important. It's better in the long run for you.

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  9. Good luck with all of them. You'll be able to pull it all off. Happy New Year!

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  10. Whatever you do, don't follow the dating advice in "The 40-Year-Old Virgin". It doesn't work. Trust me.

    You could try wearing a really skimpy outfit to a Sexaholic's Anonymous support group meeting.

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  11. all admirable resolutions

    I wish you peace on all of them

    and generosity to your self for when things don't go as planned

    and JOY when they do!

    Happy New Year -- discovering your blog was one of the highlights of 2008 for me, thanks!!!

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  12. Yeah, the celibacy thing would be my first pick. Get enough good sex, and you'll lose the weight and the worry ;)

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  13. I've never expected responsible, adult behavior out of my daugher's dad, and the past 15 years have had much less worry in them. Not that he shouldn't have to pay his share, but unless you are willing to take him to court for it, you've just got to find some way to live without any kind of assistance from him. Hard in some ways, a relief in so many others. Accept any money he does give you as a windfall. And no more checks!

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  14. A tip for the shopping bags: keep them with you. If they're small enough (chico bag style) carry one in your purse. If not, toss them in the trunk or the glove box of your car. If it's easy, you'll use them.
    The others? No advice. You sound like you have your head together.

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